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The Curse Of The Traveler

October 25, 2012 | 6 Comments » | Topics: Life

curse of the traveller

Have you ever heard of The Curse of the Traveler?

An old vagabond in his 60s told me about it over a beer in Central America, goes something like this: The more places you see, the more things you see that appeal to you, but no one place has them all. In fact, each place has a smaller and smaller percentage of the things you love, the more things you see. It drives you, even subconsciously, to keep looking, for a place not that’s perfect (we all know there’s no Shangri-La), but just for a place that’s “just right for you.” But the curse is that the odds of finding “just right” get smaller, not larger, the more you experience. So you keep looking even more, but it always gets worse the more you see. This is Part A of the Curse.

Part B is relationships. The more you travel, the more numerous and profoundly varied the relationships you will have. But the more people you meet, the more diffused your time is with any of them. Since all these people can’t travel with you, it becomes more and more difficult to cultivate long term relationships the more you travel. Yet you keep traveling, and keep meeting amazing people, so it feels fulfilling, but eventually, you miss them all, and many have all but forgotten who you are. And then you make up for it by staying put somewhere long enough to develop roots and cultivate stronger relationships, but these people will never know what you know or see what you’ve seen, and you will always feel a tinge of loneliness, and you will want to tell your stories just a little bit more than they will want to hear them. The reason this is part of the Curse is that it gets worse the more you travel, yet travel seems to be a cure for a while.

None of this is to suggest that one should ever reduce travel. It’s just a warning to young Travelers, to expect, as part of the price, a rich life tinged with a bit of sadness and loneliness, and angst that’s like the same nostalgia everyone feels for special parts of their past, except multiplied by a thousand.

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6 Responses to “The Curse Of The Traveler”

  1. Fred B Says:
    October 25th, 2012 at 7:44 pm

    Still choose to travel though. It’s a privilege, no matter what you say.

  2. Ida B Says:
    October 26th, 2012 at 6:41 pm


  3. നാടോടി ~ wanderer Says:
    November 8th, 2012 at 8:06 am

    True that. Its not it. To add to the woe is the fact that everytime you visit a place, you tend to miss something which makes you want to travel again, to the same place. And the poor traveler will have an n number of ‘places to visit’ staring at him. Its so confusing 😐 😀

  4. Nisha Jha Says:
    November 8th, 2012 at 8:31 pm

    So agree with you. No place is ever done; travel is all about introspection and self satisfaction of things/events in one’s life.

  5. billbachmann Says:
    January 19th, 2013 at 2:04 am

    The worst curse is that when you get home from an exciting trip, it feels so good to be home. FOR ABOUT THREE DAYS….. then you have urges to be “on the road again!” The drive to experience it all outshines the daily regular life often! I have traveled to around 180 countries on all seven continents and I am usually ready to pack again after 3-4 days for another experience.

  6. Richi Says:
    May 30th, 2013 at 10:07 am

    The place is not in Central America. It is some where in Germany

    1) You can see SAS on top

    2) Time travel to Europe place is very less than as compare to USA
    Like London 8 hrs, Paris 12 hrs and North Pole 6 hrs. where is New York 22 and Chile 74 hrs.


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