“Every morning we are born again. What we do today is what matters most.” —” Siddhartha Gautama
I think we’ve all hit a point in our lives when we realize that our life isn’t the way we want it to be.
Have you? Have you ever wondered, “what am I doing with my life?”
Usually this happens because we coast through some parts of our life, and without realizing it, end up in situations that leave us feeling unsatisfied.
I’m not talking about depression (though this can turn into depression). The feeling is more like a lack of excitement about what you’re doing with your life that manifests itself as a strong dissatisfaction. Life becomes stale. You just feel like your wasting your time, like there are better things out there for you that you just haven’t found. You don’t really know what these things are or how to get them, but you know they exist.
The problem is that you’re afraid to shake things up because you don’t want to ruin what you already have for something that’s unknown.
The Roller Coaster of Life
Life happens—¦fast (especially in a haze of drinking and partying that is college). And when times are good, you can’t imagine living any other way. You feel like you’ve figured it out, but eventually good times turn to bad times for no particular reason. It’s because we live in a world of constant change. Life is a roller coaster.
The key to living life is embracing this concept of constant change. It’s knowing that good times are fleeting and so are bad. It’s learning how to appreciate the good times without becoming attached to them and being able to learn from the bad times without getting discouraged. It’s about being comfortable with change and being okay with reinventing yourself if you need to.
Happiness—”it’s what we all strive to find and keep, even when it’s as elusive as ever. Nobody is jolly and elated all the time, but some individuals are definitely more fulfilled than others. Studies reveal that happiness has little to do with materialistic needs, goods, or wants, or high achievement; it boils down to your outlook on life, the quality of your relationships, and basic amenities like good governance and community resources.
1. Be optimistic
In the 1970s, researchers followed people who’d won the lottery and found that a year afterward, they were no happier than people who didn’t. This hedonic adaptation suggests that we each have a baseline level of happiness. No matter what happens, good or bad, the effect on our happiness is temporary, and we tend to revert to our baseline level. Some people have a higher baseline happiness level than others, and that is due in part to genetics, but it’s also largely influenced by how you think.
- Add up all the little joyful things that happen to you during the day. For example, there was no traffic on the road, you had a very decent and scrumptious breakfast, your friend said something uproariously humorous that made you laugh, you took your dog out for a walk in the park and played with it. All of these matters added together
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1 Exercise —“ Exercise is huge. I briefly touched on what happens to you in the short term but consider also the long term effects of regular exercise. As you maintain a regiment of exercise your body fat percentage drops, your flexibility and strength increase (less chance of injury) your lifespan extends, your immune system is bolstered, you maintain your youth longer, you carry over a sustained vigor to other parts of your life, your resting heart rate goes down, and you have a general feeling of well being. Pretty sweet. Clearly exercising is very important; given both its short and long term benefits.
But do you have to do this every day? That seems strenuous. Try expanding your definition – You don’t give it your 100% every day. Some days may be 10 minutes of simple light stretching, just to keep the habit. Other days may be 2.5 hour monster gym sessions.
I use this habit to help me accomplish two other things very important to me, mediation and getting in nature. Often times my physical exertion is a one hour walk through the park or along the water front. Practicing a walking meditation is a great way to center yourself and help carry the skill over to everyday life. Being in nature has a similar balancing effect on your well being.
But you don’t need me to tell you to work out. The benefits are all clearly documented by scientists and people. There are networks and resources for support and endless sources of inspiration to motivate you.
While many people’s first instinct after hearing a cancer diagnosis is to fight, others choose to forgo the treatments and make the most of their time rather than spending their last months in a stuffy hospital being poked and prodded by doctors and nurses.
Just two days after her husband of 67 years, Leo, passed away in July, this 90-year-old woman from Michigan named Norma was dealing with her own health crisis. Doctors found a large cancerous mass on her uterus, which would require surgery, radiation, and chemotherapy. Instead of resigning herself to months of brutal treatments, which her five-foot, 101-pound frame would likely not survive, she boldly announced to the doctor that she would be ‘hitting the road’ instead. “We explained to the well-meaning doctor and his student that we live in an RV and that we will be taking her wherever she wants to go,” Norma’s son Tim wrote in a post to Facebook. “He didn’t hesitate to say, “RIGHT ON!” We asked if he thought us irresponsible for this approach. His reply was telling.”
Instead of resigning herself to months of brutal treatments, which her five-foot, 101-pound frame would likely not survive, she boldly announced to the doctor that she would be ‘hitting the road’ instead.
“We explained to the well-meaning doctor and his student that we live in an RV and that we will be taking her wherever she wants to go,” Norma’s son Tim wrote in a post to Facebook. “He didn’t hesitate to say, “RIGHT ON!” We asked if he thought us irresponsible for this approach. His reply was telling.”
“As doctors,” he said, “we see what cancer treatment looks like every day. ICU, nursing homes, awful side effects and honestly, there is no guarantee she will survive the initial surgery to remove the mass. You are doing exactly what I would want to do in this situation. Have a fantastic trip!”
Have you ever thought about packing up your belongings, hopping in a car or boat, and living life off the grid? Maybe life in the city is too stressful, or perhaps you want to get more in touch with nature – whatever the reason, there’s definitely something romantic about living life on the move.
Liz Clark felt something inside of her that made her want to quit her job as a bartender and sail around the world. Clark doesn’t come from a wealthy family, so it’s not like she could just take one long vacation and never worry about working. No, Clark would have to somehow make a living among the waves, and it wasn’t going to be easy. Fortunately, she was given a boat on the condition that she documented her adventures everywhere she went. Clark agreed, and off she went into the unknown.
That was 2006. Now, ten years later, Clark has made a name for herself as a surfer and environmentalist living what she preaches. On her website, Clark explains, “This isn’t just a surf trip, it’s a lifestyle that has allowed me to reduce my daily impact on the earth and live closer to nature.” It’s a hard life, but one that’s no doubt rewarding. Over the course of ten years, she’s visited countless countries, met all kinds interesting people, and even crossed the South Pacific with her mother. Then, in 2013, she introduced another crew member onto her tiny ship. But this new First Mate was no weathered sailor, instead, she was a 6-month-old rescue cat named Amelia. Check out the images below to see how one adventurous kitten changed the entire course of Clark’s journey.
In 2006, Liz Clark quit her job as a bartender and decided to sail the world. She was lucky enough to receive a Cal 40 sailboat for free, but on one condition: that she would document the adventures she went on around the world.